Review: What you can do to reduce the risk of SIDS

October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month, with UK Baby Loss Awareness Week 9-15 October. This month, many charities will come together to raise awareness of the key issues affecting people who have suffered a miscarriage or a dead baby in the UK.

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SIDS

Sadly, nearly 300 babies and toddlers still die from Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) in the UK each year. SIDS is the sudden and unexpected death of a baby without a cause. Here at The Lullaby Trust, we provide specialist support to bereaved families and promote expert advice for safer baby sleep. While we still don’t know exactly what causes SIDS, it is possible to significantly reduce the chances of it happening. Babies need a lot of sleep for the first few months of life, so it’s important to make sure they sleep as safely as possible. You should try to follow the advice for all periods of sleep, not just at night.

This article lists the essential things you can do and things to avoid to help reduce your risk of SIDS. Please feel free to contact us anytime to chat with a friendly helpline counselor, or chat with your midwife or health visitor. Finally, congratulations on your new baby! We hope you enjoy this incredibly special moment together.

What you can do:

Always place your baby on his back to sleep

  • You should always place your baby on his back to sleep and not on his front or side.
  • Make sure you are consistent with sleeping on your back – the risk of SIDS is especially high for babies who are sometimes placed on the front or on the side
  • Once your baby can roll back and forth and back on his own, he can be left to find his own position.

Keep your baby smoke-free

  • Never smoke around your baby, and never put your baby in contact with smoky skin or clothes
  • Don’t let friends or family smoke near your baby, and keep your home and other places the baby spends time smoke-free

Choose breast milk over formula

  • If you have the possibility, always give preference to breast milk over formula as it has been shown to reduce the risk of SIDS.

Use a mannequin

  • Recent research suggests that routine use of a mannequin may help reduce the risk of SIDS.
  • If you choose to use a mannequin, wait until breastfeeding is established with your baby, usually around four weeks.
  • Offer the mannequin at the start of each day and night sleep and gradually remove it between 6 and 12 months
  • Do not force your baby to pick up the mannequin or put it back on if he spits it out. Do not use a neck cord

Place your baby in a crib or Moses basket in the same room as you for the first 6 months, even during the day

  • The safest place for your baby to sleep for the first 6 months is in a cot or Moses basket in the same room as you
  • SIDS risk is lower when babies sleep in the same room as their parents or guardians, but do not share the same bed with them

Make sure your baby has a firm, flat, waterproof mattress in good condition

  • You should avoid using soft or bulky bedding (such as duvets, pillows and quilts) as this increases the risk of SIDS
  • Try to avoid having loose objects like lint in the crib as they can be a potential hazard
  • You should sleep your baby on a firm, flat mattress that is clean and in good repair. A mattress with a waterproof cover will help keep it clean and dry

Things to avoid:

Never sleep on a sofa or in an armchair with your baby

  • Sofa sharing with a baby very increases the risk of SIDS
  • Never sleep on a sofa or in an armchair with your baby next to you or on your chest, even during the day

Do not share the bed with your baby if any of these situations apply to you:

  • If you or your partner smoke (even if you don’t smoke in the bedroom)
  • If you or your partner have been drinking alcohol or taking drugs (including medicines that can make you drowsy)
  • If your baby is low birth weight (2.5kg or 51 / 2lbs or less)
  • If your baby is born premature (37 weeks or less)

Parents may choose to share the bed with their baby (for sleeping, not just for comforting or feeding them) for a variety of reasons. If this is your choice, it is important that you know how to minimize the risks. It is important to note that a high proportion of infants who die from SIDS end up with their heads covered in loose litter. Make sure there are no pillows, sheets, blankets, or other items in the crib with you that could obstruct your baby’s breathing or cause her to overheat.

Avoid letting your baby get too hot

  • It’s important to make sure your baby has a comfortable temperature – neither too hot nor too cold.
  • A room temperature of 16-20 ° C, with light bedding or a tight-fitting light sleeping bag, is comfortable and safe for sleeping babies
  • Check your baby regularly to see if he is too hot. Look for sweat or smell your baby’s tummy – his hands and feet will usually be cooler, this is normal. If your baby is hot, remove one or more layers of bedding

Do not cover your baby’s face or head while sleeping, and do not use loose bedding

  • Using loose bedding that can cover your baby’s face or head can be dangerous and may increase the risk of SIDS
  • To keep your baby safe and their head uncovered while they sleep, you can:
    • Place your baby on their back in a ‘toe-toe’ position – this is where baby’s feet are placed at the foot of the bed – so they can’t squirm under the covers
    • Use blankets tucked in, no higher than your baby’s shoulders or the sleeping bag

For more information or to discuss anything you’ve read today, you can call The Lullaby Trust’s Information and Advice Line on 0808 802 6869.

If you are looking for support following the death of a baby or toddler, The Lullaby Trust can help. Please call our helpline to speak to an advisor on 0808 802 6868.


Review: Supporting someone during the loss of a baby | Baby loss

On April 15th, 2014, I said goodnight to my darling baby Eddie for the last time. In the early hours of April 16, we tragically lost our baby boy suddenly, without warning. Within seconds our whole life was irrevocably shattered. Our perfect family of three has been destroyed.

Coping With Baby Loss

Eddie was only three months old when he fell victim to SIDS, Sudden Infant Death Syndrome, and by all doctors, he was a perfectly healthy and prosperous little boy.

The loss of a baby or infant is devastating and the consequences are far-reaching for parents, families and friends. Learning to live in the shadow of grief is emotionally draining and confusing, and it often seems impossible that you can imagine having hope again.

Teddy’s wish

Culturally, we often find it difficult to talk about the death and loss of babies even more. Losing a child goes against the natural order of life. We grow up expecting to outlive our parents, not the other way around. No one can ever be prepared for the impact of losing a baby, this goes for parents, but also very often close friends and family can feel helpless and unable to know what to do or say or how to act. This is why Teddy’s Wish launched the “ Be There ” guide, in the hope that it will provide insight into how to speak to bereaved parents in a way that is supportive, compassionate and understanding.

It is certainly a great help to have support with the mundane, offering to cook, help with washing and cleaning can be extremely helpful. Most importantly, the best support you can give to a bereaved parent is time and a listening ear. Often times, friends and family try to offer advice and solutions, but the truth is, the only solution parents want is one that no one else can – that is, bring their baby back. Likewise, bold statements and suggestions such as “at least you can get pregnant” or “you can have another one” can be well intentioned but are largely unnecessary and can create more anger for bereaved parents.

For those who are unsure of what to say, a simple text that says “I am thinking of you” can be very comforting. It is better to say something than to say nothing. From our experience, we felt that friends who hadn’t made contact didn’t care about us when in fact, they just didn’t know what to say.

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If parents continue to have children, it is so important to remember that their next pregnancy does not replace the deceased baby, and often the pregnancy itself will bring a lot of confusing emotions and anxiety. Support is so important to help these parents get through their pregnancy and birth, especially those who have suffered a stillbirth.

It is a universal truth that most parents love to talk about their children and it must be recognized that it is no different for bereaved parents. We suggest that you continue to say their baby’s name. It validates the existence of their baby and means so much to know that their baby is recognized. If you also remember birthdays and anniversaries, it will be a nice gesture to show that their baby is still thought about and remembered.

As time goes on, grief will never go away, it will just change over time. This is the harsh reality of grief, it is an eternal scar.

We have found that the support we receive in many different forms means so much, as it makes us realize that despite our pain and tragic loss, we are not alone on this journey and this is an integral part of the journey. survival and the search for hope.

Guide to Supporting Friends and Family with the Loss of a Baby

BABY – don’t be afraid to mention their baby’s name, birthdays and anniversaries. All bereaved parents love to hear about their baby because it recognizes their existence.

HEAR – listen and listen. Too often friends and family try to offer advice, but the best support you can give is just to be there and listen.

TALK – get in touch and stay in touch, even a simple text “ thinking of you ” will mean so much. Grieving parents just want to know that people are thinking of them and are there for them when needed.

HELP ME – show up with food, help with cleaning. Doing something is better than doing nothing. Doing something without an invitation is even better.

EXPRESSIONS – Avoid fatalistic expressions, such as “things happen for one reason” or “you may have another”, as they make the feelings of bereaved parents worse.

REPLACEMENT – another baby is not. Some parents will have more children, and being pregnant again can be a terrifying and stressful time for grieving parents.

WAITING – don’t expect parents to “get over it”. Grieving is an ongoing process and is always there. It’s not something you forget or never forget. It’s something you learn to live with.

Article written by Jennifer Reid, co-founder of Teddyy’s Wish.

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Review: Expert Tips & Advice on How to Be A Confident Parent

You can catch Sarah Norris, The Baby Detective on My Baba’s panel at The Baby Show Live @ Home on Sunday 1st November at 5 pm. Sarah will be joining our panel on How To Survive The First Three Months, along with Lucinda Miller, Nature Doc Clinic, Becca Maberly, Amother Place and Dr Sophie Niedermaier Patramani from Little Tummy. 

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I have worked with hundreds of new families over the years and seen just about every problem or variation of problem you can imagine. I have also noticed that parents are becoming more and more stressed. I have thought about this a lot, and talked it over with other childcare professionals, and have come to the conclusion that much of today’s parenting problems seems to stem from fear.

Fear of not ‘getting it right’ or ‘not being good enough’. Fear of criticism from family, friends, people on social media, or random strangers. Fear of the ‘latest research shows’ articles in the press and on the news.

Loss of parenting confidence

These fears cause confusion and stress, and can quickly lead to loss of confidence. This, in turn, leaves new parents unable or unwilling to listen to their instincts or trust their own judgement, or even to make the decisions they feel would be right for them and their baby.

We live in the ‘Google Age’, expecting to be able to find instant fixes for all our problems via our keyboards, except that amongst all the helpful and accurate information out there is also a mind-boggling mass of misinformation, conflicting information, distorted facts and downright lies… so how is any new or prospective parent to find their way through this minefield of confusion?

Parents’ reactions

When faced with confusion and loss of confidence I find parents tend to react in one of two ways:

‘The Haphazardist’

when parents are so overwhelmed they can’t actually decide on anything, but flit from one thing to another in response to other people’s suggestions/opinions, something they read/heard. They can’t decide on routine or demand feeding so they do a bit of both, they swaddle one day and un-swaddle the next, use dummies, then ban dummies, switch formula/bottles/feeding schedules, etc… Neither they nor their babies know from one day to the next what they are doing but muddle on somehow, like a human pinball machine.

‘The Analyst’

These are parents who place everything they do under a microscope, analyse it, and overthink it to the point of paranoia. They make a plan, check and double-check everything they do and are afraid to change or try anything new in case they ‘get it wrong’. They have order, but it can often be the wrong sort of order, perhaps with an overly strict routine that doesn’t quite meet the needs of baby or parents (or both) or that limits socialisation. The flip side of this can be a sort of decision making paralysis because there are too many variables to consider.

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The real issues of parenting

The root cause of most parenting confusion can be traced back, not to what we do, but to how we think about what we do. The tendency is to focus unhealthily on isolated aspects of parenting, and on minor details to the point where we lose track of the big picture.

Let’s go back to where we came from, before agriculture, to when we lived in extended family groups that were nomadic, following the herds. We carried our possessions, walked for days at a time, and were opportunistic feeders, eating whatever we could find at the time. The survival of the group depended on the skills, effort, and health of the individuals, and we took care of each other because, apart from affection, it made the group stronger and helped ensure the survival of everyone.

Older women helped the younger women birth, and the only thing that mattered was the survival of both baby and mother. If the mother didn’t have enough milk baby would be fed by other women, or given animal milk because the only thing that mattered was making sure baby was fed.

They didn’t have calendars or know weeks or months, they just knew seasons, and they weaned baby when baby showed signs of being ready, using whatever food was around, probably pre-chewed by adults or older children.

They did all this based on instinct and on the experience of other group members, and they focused on what was important for the wellbeing of individuals, and each individual knew their own importance and responsibility within the group. Everybody was valued, parents, grandparents, siblings, extended family… not just the newest baby.

When breastfeeding goes wrong…

No mother would have been allowed to torture herself trying to exclusively breastfeed a baby if she had cracked and bleeding nipples or mastitis. Others would have stepped in and taken over the feeding to ensure the health of both mother and baby, and the mother herself would have known that she had other roles to play as mate/mother to siblings/worker, etc. so needed to be well and strong.

Babies would have been carried by adults or older children in fabric or animal hide slings or swaddled and put on domestic animals or dragged on wooden stretchers. They would have been fed when hungry if that was convenient, and if not, they would have had to wait until the group stopped their march.

Now, I am not saying that this was some sort of ‘ideological ideal’ that we should try and mimic because it was natural. Nature is cruel and relentless, mortality rate was high, and women would have 10 children and be lucky if two or three made it to adulthood.

What I am trying to illustrate is the fact that we, as a race, are extremely hardy and versatile. We survived, endured, and evolved to be the most dominant race on the planet, and we did this by being able to recognise and focus on what was really important, and disregard what wasn’t.

Luckily, today we are don’t have to worry so much about survival but those same principles apply to your emotional and physical health and to your quality of life and parenting experience. The way to become a confident and competent parent hangs largely on being able to zoom in to attend to detail, but ALSO to zoom out and see the big picture. Only then will you be able to see what really does matter, and what doesn’t.

What does matter

These are the things that seem important now, and, when you look back in one month, six months, or six years, know that they were, indeed, important.

  1. That your child knows you love them
  2. That your child is physically safe
  3. That your child is well fed, clothed and warm
  4. That your child receives medical attention when needed
  5. That your child is educated
  6. That your child is prepared for life in society as an adult

What doesn’t matter

These are things that seem important now but, when you look back in a week, a month, a year, or ten years, you realise they didn’t actually matter, and that stressing and fretting over them was a waste of your precious time with your baby and damaged your quality of life.

  1. Whether or not you had a vaginal birth/c-section/pain relief/no pain relief/hospital birth/home birth
  2. Whether you breastfed (for 1 day, 1 month, 1 year, or 2 years)/formula fed/combination fed/tube/fed/demand fed/routine fed/weaned at 4, 5 or 6 months/used shop-bought baby food/hand prepared organic food/gave your children chicken nuggets (with ketchup !)
  3. Whether you did attachment parenting/babywearing/ cuddled your baby skin to skin or fully clothed/let baby cry or made sure they never cried/swaddled baby or used a sleeping bag/sleep trained or co-slept/worked full time/part-time or stayed at home
  4. Whether you lose your baby weight quickly or slowly/look stunning on the school run or do it in your pj’s/your house is tidy or a bombsite/your household runs smoothly or lurches from one disaster to the next/how often your laundry gets done
  5. What anyone else says! e.g. your family, friends, work colleagues, random strangers in the street, people in Facebook groups, Twitter twits, journalists, etc

Writing this list I can almost feel your hackles rising as you get defensive and feel I am belittling you and your parenting choices but please don’t misunderstand me.

I know many of these things stem from choices made as a result of careful thought and love and do indeed matter to you, and if your choices are working well for you and your baby and your whole family then they are obviously the right choices so carry on, don’t change a thing and ignore me.

What I am talking about is when something is obviously not working for someone in the family, but you are reluctant to change things in case you make a terrible mistake that could have catastrophic results for your baby/child. What I am trying to do is to reassure you that there are very few ‘wrong choices’.

Babies are resilient

Babies are as resilient now as they were thousands of years ago and can adapt to pretty much every possible way you could think of to raise a child. A healthy, happy, well-balanced child becomes this way as a result of thousands of different decisions you make as a parent, combined with their own DNA, plus whatever life throws at them as they grow up.

There is no right or wrong way, no parenting method better than any other, no feeding method or diet, no way of educating, etc that acts in isolation to deliver what you want for your child. Everything acts and interacts with everything else. If you get something wrong you will have plenty of opportunity over the years to make up for it.

  • There is NO right way… just your way, and your way is just as good as anyone else’s way so stop trying to be perfect
  • Stop putting everything you do under a microscope to see if it is ‘the right thing’ to do
  • Stop second-guessing yourselves and each other
  • Stop trying to micromanage every aspect of your baby’s life because you are afraid of ‘getting it wrong’

The way to becoming a confident and competent parent is to let go of perfect and embrace ’good enough’. Do the best you can when you can, and accept those times when your best is just you getting yourself, your baby and the rest of your family through the day in one piece. As long as everyone survives you can draw a line under your bad day and start again tomorrow.

If something doesn’t feel right, let it go and try something else. Be brave enough to challenge your own preconceptions, get creative, experiment, use trial and error safe in the knowledge that there is no right or wrong answer and that the likelihood of you doing any long-term damage to your baby’s future life is extremely small.

Trust your instincts and have faith in yourself because you ARE totally capable of figuring out what is right for you, your baby and your family. Think back to your own childhood. Think of your friends and neighbours brought up differently yet equally happy and successful.

Could you meet a stranger and guess accurately anything about their childhood? How they were fed, educated, when they slept through the night, first smiled, got potty trained, whether they did lots of after school activities, had playdates, learned to talk early or late, or were an only child or one of ten children?

I know how hard being a parent is and how much research and thought goes into your choices, and I’m not saying that there is no point in bothering with details and the immediate picture because they can be very important. What I am saying is don’t get stuck there. Focus on the immediate, by all means, but remember to zoom out sometimes and remind yourself of the big picture to give context and perspective to what is happening.

If you are stressed about something, ask yourself:

  • ‘Will it matter tomorrow?’
  • ‘Will it matter next week?’
  • ‘Will it matter in a year?’
  • ‘Will it matter in five years, or ten years ?’

One of the saddest things I hear is second or third-time parents saying they wished they hadn’t wasted so much of their time with their first baby worrying about things that didn’t really matter.

Remember: zoom in for detail, zoom out for perspective, have faith in yourself, and, last but not least, be kind to yourself.

By Sarah Norris, The Baby Detective

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Review: SiteGround Review 2020 – Which SiteGround Plan to Choose?

What comes to your mind while choosing for a reliable and affordable WordPress hosting provider?

SiteGround, indeed! Being operated for the last two decades, SiteGround’s popularity is growing day by day. But, what’s the hack? It’s definitely because of their services. Siteground is always a better solution for newbie bloggers and entrepreneurs for its shared WordPress hosting Plans.

In this SiteGround review, I am going to focus on the most essential features that a web hosting provider should offer and guide you to choose the best plan that fits your budget and requirement. Let’s check whether SiteGround Hosting is worthy enough for you or not.

SiteGround’s Background and Popularity

SiteGround has been serving since 2004. It has been dominating the WordPress hosting industry for the last decade. SiteGround is a leading web hosting company having four physical offices and five data centers around the world.

SiteGround was started by Tenko Nikolov along with his two university mates and now it has turned into a huge hosting company that employs more than 400 and hosts over 1.8 million domains worldwide.

SiteGround is best praised for its server speed and support quality. SiteGround is one of the hosting providers that is recommended by WordPress.org along with Bluehost and DreamHost.

Ever since the SiteGround hosting has launched, its popularity is growing day by day. Just have a look at the image below to check what Google Trends says about it,

SiteGround Hosting Types

SiteGround offers hosting solutions for every individual and business. Though it is best known for WordPress hosting and popular among bloggers, but has managed to serve growing businesses that require higher-level hosting solutions like Cloud Hosting, Dedicated Hosting, etc.

Let’s have a look at the hosting types that SiteGround offers,

Shared Hosting: SiteGround offers beginner-friendly shared hosting plans for customers who need to host a small and medium-sized website. SiteGround shared hosting plans are equipped with top-class features like free SSL, SSD Storage, Free Email, Free CDN, and much more.

WordPress Hosting: SiteGround hosting is popular among WordPress users for its managed WordPress features and support. SiteGround Managed WordPress hosting is crafted with care to meet the requirements of both small and medium-sized online entrepreneurs and bloggers. It is equipped with the most essential managed WordPress features like Daily Automatic Backup, Staging, SSL Integration, Theme and Plugin Management, and much more.

WooCommerce Hosting: SiteGround offers managed WooCommerce hosting to start an online store in the easiest way possible. The quick install and integration with WooCommerce is an easy way for you to create a professional theme for your online store. There is no need to hire a web developer to start your e-commerce business. With SiteGround’s Managed WooCommerce Hosting you can get the site up and running in minutes.

Cloud Hosting: Cloud Hosting is a new generation hosting solution that is suitable for large websites with heavy traffic. If you are looking for a quality Cloud VPS hosting provider for your blog or website, then SiteGround might be a good option you can opt for. SiteGround is integrated with a top-notch highly scalable platform to host your site on a solid Cloud hosting server that can easily match the growing needs of your business. 

SiteGround Performance Test

Performance is important to get the most out of your online venture. Website Loading Speed, Uptime, and Load Impact are the three main factors that decide the performance of a web host. There are plenty of web hosts that offer cheap hosting plans with a lot of eye-catching features, but fail to fulfill these basic requirements, especially website loading speed.

Does SiteGround take care of these issues? Without further ado, let’s have a look at our performance tests.

Speed Test

No one likes a slow website. Research shows that visitors tend to stay on a site that loads within 2 seconds. Website loading speed is also an important ranking signal that Google counts to decide SERPs. How awesome your content is, if it fails to load faster, you are going to lose visitors resulting in high bounce rate and low site time.

I have tested a site with a typical setup with various tools available from various server locations around the world. Let’s check what I have found, 

Pingdom Test

Pingdom is one of the most reliable services to test website statistics such as loading speed. The test site has been tested from 5 different locations and the result is as in the table below,

SL Location Loading Speed
1 Washington DC – USA (North America) 785 ms
2 London – UK (Europe) 1.10 s
3 Tokyo – Japan (Asia) 1.66 s
4 Sydney – Australia (Australia) 1.81 s
5 Sao Paulo – Brazil (South America) 1.89 s
Average Loading Speed is 1.449 Sec
SiteGround_Pingdom_Test

GTMetrix Test

GTMetrix is another popular tool that analyzes a website’s performance. Using PageSpeed and YSlow, GTmetrix generates reports for the complete loading time of a website. Unlike other tools, GTMetrix uses ‘Fully Loaded Time (OnLoad Time + 2sec of Network Inactivity)’ to maintain accuracy. Therefore you might observe the difference in results as compared to Pingdom Test.

SL Location Fully Loaded Time
1 Dallas – USA (North America) 2.3 s
2 London – UK (Europe) 2.6 s
3 Hong Kong – China (Asia) 3.4 s
4 Sydney – Australia (Australia) 3.3 s
5 Sao Paulo – Brazil (South America) 2.4 s
Average Fully Loaded Time is 2.8 Sec

Google PageSpeed Insights

PageSpeed Insights is a tool by Google to check the performance of a website. This tool is slightly different than the other speed testing tools. PageSpeed Insights reports on the performance of a page on both mobile and desktop devices and provides suggestions on how that page may be improved. It provides a detailed overview of a website’s performance in terms of Speed Index, Blocking Time, Interaction Time, etc. Using PageSpeed Insights the loading speed of the test site has been found as 1.7 Sec.

 

Google PageSpeed Insights SiteGround

Load Impact Performance Test

A final verdict of performance can not be given just by testing a site on Pingdom or GTMetrix, especially when the website is new with no or less traffic. Sometimes a website performs well when there are only a few visitors accessing at the same time. But, as the traffic rises, the performance deteriorates.

Therefore, it is an essential part of the performance test to check whether a website remains stable with rising traffic or not. The test site has been tested by sending 50 Virtual users for 5 Minutes and recorded the server response result as follows,

Load Impact Test SiteGround

Here the green line is the number of active users and the blue line is the server response time. You can see that the server response time remains almost stable even in peak traffic, i.e. 50 virtual users. Overall 10,861 requests are made within 5 minutes and the average response time is recorded as 108ms with 36 requests/sec.

Thus SiteGround easily passed our load impact test with a stable server response time resulting in stable loading speed. 

Uptime Test

Uptime is another factor that determines the worthiness of a web host. How awesome your content is or how fast your website loads, if the server goes down frequently, that will have a huge impact on your website’s reputation and traffic. With more downtime, you are likely to lose your search rankings and hence traffic.

SiteGround promises to maintain 99.99% uptime, and from my experience, it is beyond that. Most of the SiteGround users including me experienced a 100% Uptime rate. That proves how SiteGround values its customer’s properties.

SiteGround promises guaranteed uptime of 99.9% on an annual basis. And if they fail to do that, you will get compensated with free months of hosting. That’s pretty nice!

SiteGround is integrated with LXC (Linux Containers) based hosting platform which helps in scaling up server resources in high load. Thus a sudden traffic spike does not lead to downtime.

Top Features of SiteGround Hosting

Apart from the top-notch hosting performance, SiteGround provides all industry-standard features along with some special ones. Let’s have a glance at the top features that SiteGround offers,

Security and Backup

While talking about essential features of a web host we can not leave behind the need for security measures. This internet world is full of hackers and spammers. To prevent damages and losses from these unfair means, SiteGround is equipped with top-class security measures.

Server Side Security Measures

  • Unique Account Isolation: SiteGround isolates its shared servers through a unique isolation mechanism. Even if a hosting account is affected by vulnerabilities, it will not affect the rest of the accounts on the same machine. This feature makes a shared server as secure as a dedicated server.
  • Fast Server Monitoring: SiteGround’s in-house monitoring system is capable of checking server status in every 0.5sec. It not only helps in monitoring ongoing issues related to the server but also prevents from potential threats.
  • AI-Based Security Platform: SiteGround implemented an AI bases platform in 2017 and it claims to block 0.5-2million Brute-Force attacks per hour, which is quite impressive.
  • Custom Security Patches: Unlike many popular web hosts, SiteGround does not rely on third-party security patches. The security level of the SiteGround server is ensured by custom patches written by its own team.
  • Spam Protection: SiteGround’s spam protection is powered by SolarWinds Spam Experts solution, which filters out spams from both incoming and outgoing mails and provides easier management of spam filtering and quarantine zones.

Free Daily Backup and On-Demand Backup

SiteGround provides free automatic daily backup of your site which is stored up to 30 days on their server. Backups created can be restored using their Backup Restore tool with the matter of a few clicks. This is probably the best feature SiteGround offers. With a backup copy, you never need to worry about your site’s security. 

SiteGround also provides an On-demand Backup service which can be availed free with GrowBig and GoGeek plans. You can create up to 5 on-demand backups at a time on GrowBig and GoGeek. And for the StartUp plan, you need to purchase it separately.

Free SSL Certificate

SSL Certificate is essential for the security of your website. It encrypts all traffic that goes through your website and ensures that sensitive information like login credentials and payment details remains protected.

SiteGround includes free Let’s Encrypt Standard SSL certificates with each hosting plan. You can install an SSL certificate from ‘Site Tools’ with a few matters of clicks. Further, you can use the HTTPS Enforce tool within the dashboard to ensure proper implementation and encryption of SSL certificates.

WordPress Tool – Migrator and Staging

SiteGround Hosting is integrated with a Migrator WordPress plugin that lets you migrate your WordPress site from an old host within a few matters of clicks. SiteGround migrator plugin is free to use a plugin that allows you to migrate as many sites as you wish without having much technical knowledge.

SiteGround hosting also allows you to create a staging environment for your live website. Staging is useful when you are about to modify the core features of your website. Modification is never advisable on the live site, as it would hamper the user experience of your website. The staging environment is a true copy of your live website. You can modify the site on the staging version and later deploy it to the live site with a few matters of clicks.

Free Unlimited Email Accounts

Unlike other hosting services, SiteGround does not charge separately for business email accounts.

Creating domain-specific email addresses like ‘[email protected]‘ and accessing them is an effortless task with SiteGround. You can create as many as you need and access them within the SiteGround dashboard. You can even set up your preferred mail client for different platforms like iOS, macOS, etc with the help of a one-click setup file.

Free Cloudflare CDN Integration

A Content Delivery Network improves the performance of your website by caching and serving it from different locations around the world. Cloudflare is one of the most popular CDN services available in the market.

SiteGround has been tied up with Cloudflare to fulfill the need of CDN for better performance of a website hosted on it. You do not need to setup Cloudflare separately for your domains hosted on SiteGround.

You just need to access the performance tab within the SiteGround dashboard and set the Cloudflare service on. You do not even need to change your name-servers to Cloudflare.

SuperCacher

SiteGround implements SuperCacher Technology that claims to speed up a website by 4x. SuperCacher technology increases the number of hits your site can handle up to 100 times. It caches a website on 3 different levels namely NGINX Direct Delivery, Dynamic caching, and Memcached.

  • NGINX Direct Delivery: NGINX Direct Delivery stores most of the static resources of your website (images, JS, CSS, and others) and serves directly through NGINX to achieve the fastest possible loading time. It flushes and renews your data automatically every 3 hours.
  • Dynamic Caching: Dynamic Caching deals with the non-static resources of your website. It helps in preventing unnecessary database queries, processing of each page visit, and improves your website’s loading speed by lowering the TTFB (time to the first byte) of your pages.
  • Memcached: Memcached is an object caching mechanism designed to improve the connection between your application and its database. It stores data and objects in the Siteground server’s RAM and speeds up database requests, API requests, and page rendering.

30 Days Money Back Guarantee

SiteGround provides 30 days of money back guarantee to its customers. Though it is a rare case for hosting like SiteGround, if somehow it doesn’t fit your criteria, you can have your money back within 30 days.

You can even try SiteGround without paying anything for a full month.

SiteGround Hosting Plans – Which One to Choose

SiteGround’s hosting plans are crafted to meet the needs of every individual and business. You can easily choose a plan that fits your budget and requirement, despite being a beginner or an expert.

Basically, SiteGround provides 3 different plans for its customers namely StartUp, GrowBig, and GoGeek. Before deciding which plan should you choose, let’s have a look at the SiteGround Hosting Plans Comparison Chart.

SiteGround Hosting Plans Comparison Chart

StartUp Grow Big Go Geek
Websites 1 Unlimited Unlimited
Web Space 10 GB SSD 20 GB SSD 40 GB SSD
Visits per Month 10,000 25,000 100,000
Traffic Unmetered Unmetered Unmetered
Databases Allowed Unlimited Unlimited Unlimited
Database Size 500 MB 750 MB 1000 MB
Free WordPress Migration Yes Yes Yes
Free SSL Yes Yes Yes
Daily Backup Yes Yes Yes
Free Cloudflare CDN Yes Yes Yes
Email Accounts Unlimited Unlimited Unlimited
Mailbox Size 2000 MB 4000 MB 6000 MB
Money-Back Guarantee 30 Days 30 Days 30 Days
On-Demand Backup 5 5
SuperCacher 1 Level 3 Levels 3 Levels
Staging Environment Yes Yes
Add Collaborators Yes Yes
Highest Tire of Resources Yes
Ultrafast PHP Yes
White-label Hosting & Client Management  Yes
Priority Support Yes
Git for WordPress repo creation Yes
Regular Price $14.99/Mo $24.99/Mo $39.99/Mo
Discounted Price $6.99/Mo $9.99/Mo $14.99/Mo

Which SiteGround Plan to Choose?

Choosing a perfect hosting plan purely depends on your need and expertise level. Let me dig deeper into the needs of each individual and help you to choose the perfect plan that suits your budget as well as requirements.

Startup Plan: The name suggests, this plan is for those who are just starting out. The startup plan is perfect for you if you have just one website to host. Apart from getting just one site to host, the StartUp plan has all the essential features (SSD Storage, Free Email, Free CDN, Daily Backup, Free SSL, and more) to start your online venture.

Grow Big Plan: Grow Big plan is for those who want to expand their online business to the next level. It allows you to host multiple websites under the plan. This plan is perfect for an established website with moderate traffic. Apart from having all the essential features that a Startup plan has, the GrowBig plan has some pro features (3 levels of caching, Staging, On-demand Backup, and more) to help you manage your websites like a professional.

Go Geek Plan: This top tier plan is for those having websites with high traffic. This plan is perfect for web developers and geeky professionals. Apart from having all the premium features that GrowBig plan has, GoGeek plan has some geeky features (Git for WordPress repo creation, white-label hosting and client management, Ultrafast PHP) to help you manage your own as well as client’s websites. The Ultrafast PHP helps you load your websites faster. The GoGeek plan also has the privilege to use more server resources than any other shared hosting plan.

If you are just starting out with one website to host, I recommend you choose Startup Plan and with the growth of your business you can upgrade to a higher plan in the future. But, if you are an established website owner with moderate traffic and moving out from another host, the Grow Big Plan might be a better option for you as it includes some pro features. Moreover, the GrowBig plan is the most popular plan that SiteGround offers.

 

SiteGround Hosting Dashboard Tour

SiteGround provides a clean and user-friendly dashboard interface to manage websites and site tools within its hosting account. As soon as you log in to your SiteGround account you will have access to the important sections (Websites, Services, MarketPlace, etc) of your hosting account.

SiteGround Dashboard

However, In this dashboard tour, I am only concerned about the Website section and Site tools.

5 Steps to Create Your First Website with WordPress

You can create your first site with SiteGround with just 5 steps,

  1. Head on to the Websites section and Click on ‘Add New Site‘SiteGround_Add new site
  2. Choose a domain that you are going to install WordPress.SiteGround_Choose a domain
  3. You can either migrate your old site using the SiteGround Migrator plugin or just install a fresh copy of WordPress.Siteground_Start new site
  4. Create your login credentials by providing your email address and a strong password.SiteGround_Credentials WordPress
  5. Point your Nameservers to that of SiteGround if your domain is registered using 3rd party registrar.SiteGround_Set_Nameservers

Your website Will be ready within 2 minutes.

Site Tools Dashboard

As soon your website is ready you will have access to the Site Tools section. You can manage almost everything related to your website within the Site Tools.

SiteGround Site Tools

Dashboard Section: Within the Dashboard Section you will have access to the most important features through Pinned Tools. You can customize Pinned Tools as per your need. Moreover, it displays disk usage, inodes, IPs, and Nameservers related to your website.

Site Section: Through Site Section, you can access File Manager, FTP Accounts, App Manager, MySQL, and PostgreSQL. The File Manager is a nice in-browser file management interface that lets you upload new files and edit existing ones without needing to connect via FTP.

Security Section: Within the Security Section you will have access to Backups, SSL Manager, HTTPS Enforce, Protected URLs, Blocked IPs, and SiteScanner. In the Backups section, you will find the daily backups done by SiteGround. If you are using GrowBig or GoGeek plan, you will also have the option to take manual backups. SSL manager lets you manage free Let’s Encrypt SSL and Wildcard SSL for your sites. The SiteScanner is a paid tool that helps you protect your website by constantly crawling and analyzing your files, pages, and domain. It can identify even the latest malware threats.

Speed Section: The Speed section allows you to manage Caching options and Cloudflare CDN integration. You can manage the server-level caching (NGINX Direct Delivery, Dynamic caching, and Memcached) through SuperCacher. Through the Cloudflare section, you can activate Cloudflare CDN with the matters of a few clicks.

WordPress Section: The WordPress section allows you to install and manage WordPress, create a staging environment, migrate your old WordPress site, and auto-update WordPress Core and Plugins. With the free SiteGround Migrator plugin at WordPress.org, it’s super easy to migrate unlimited WordPress sites to SiteGround.

Domains Section: The Domains section allows you to manage Parked Domains, Subdomains, Redirects, and DNS. You can easily create and manage records for your domain name with the user-friendly DNS Zone Editor.

Email Section: The Email section gives you access to Email Accounts, Forwarders, AutoResponders, Filters, and Spam Protection features. You can easily create new email accounts for your site as many as you need. You can set various filters for your incoming mails to prevent unwanted emails.

Statistics Section: The statistics section gives you access to more in-depth analytics for your site. You can see information about your Overall traffic, Audience, Traffic sources, Audience behavior, and Audience technology. You can also more easily access error logs and access logs.

Dev Section: The Dev section is a geeky section which allows you to access to Git for WordPress repo creation, create and manage Cron jobs, PHP Manager, and SSH Key Manager. This section allows web developers to manage their hosting accounts at an expert level. 

SiteGround Pros and Cons

Pros

  • Superior Speed
  • High Uptime Rate
  • SuperCacher Technology
  • Free CDN
  • Free SSL
  • Free Unlimited Email
  • Clean and User-Friendly Dashboard
  • Free Daily Backup
  • Free WordPress Site Migration
  • SSD Diskspace
  • Managed WordPress
  • Awesome Support
  • 30 Days Trial/Money-Back Guarantee

Cons

  • Not a cheap hosting
  • High Renewal Rate
  • No Free Domain

Final Thoughts on SiteGround Review

Do I recommend SiteGround?

Yes, I do.

SiteGround is one of the most reputed hosting providers. The combination of WordPress and SiteGround is just perfect. WordPress.org itself recommends SiteGround for its high-quality services. In terms of performance, reliability, and support SiteGround is far better than its competitors.

If you are searching for a high-quality and high-performance hosting solution, SiteGround is definitely for you. You will never regret being a SiteGround customer.

However, if you are looking for a cheap hosting that provides a lot of webspace, SiteGround might not work for you. SiteGround is crafted with care for serious web professionals around the world. The webspace it provides is just perfect for any professional activity like blogging.


Overall Rating


























Rating: 4.5 out of 5.

(4.7/5)


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FAQ for SiteGround Hosting

Is SiteGround any good?

Yes, indeed! SiteGround is still the best Shared WordPress hosting provider for its unbeatable features and support. Though SiteGround has increased the prices of their hosting plans recently, still it makes sense to choose them for your online venture. If you really need a high-quality hosting provider with high-performance, SiteGround is for you. But, if you are running after cheap plans and unlimited disk space, it might not work for you.

Is SiteGround better than Bluehost?

It depends upon your need and perspective. SiteGround is always a better solution as compared to Bluehost. Though Bluehost plans are cheaper with low renewal rates than SiteGround, in terms of Speed, Uptime, Support Quality, and Features SiteGround is unbeatable. If your budget is tight and you are looking for cheap hosting with a free domain and unlimited disk space, you might consider Bluehost. Otherwise, SiteGround is always a better option.

Which SiteGround plan is best?

SiteGround plans are crafted with care to meet the need of every individual and business. If you are just starting out, a Startup plan is a good choice. Else, to get the ultimate benefit from the SiteGround hosting without spending more, the GrowBig plan might be the right choice. The GrowBig plan is best for serious professionals like bloggers and online entrepreneurs. You do not need a GoGeek plan unless you are a developer or running a high traffic site like an eCommerce site.

Is SiteGround expensive?

SiteGround looks a bit expensive compared to other popular hosting providers (Bluehost, DreamHost, HostGator, etc). But, there are several reasons behind their expensive plans. In terms of performance, reliability, security, and support, SiteGround is unbeatable. SiteGround monitors all of its active servers constantly. Though SiteGround is shared hosting, you will feel the fragrance of Managed WordPress Hosting with them. Their valuable features (Free Daily Backup, Staging, SuperCacher Technology, Free Migration, etc) can’t be delivered with a cheap plan.

Does SiteGround charge monthly?

Yes, you can choose the monthly payment option for SiteGround. But, it is always advisable to pay an upfront payment for the longest tenure available to get benefited from the future price hike.

Review: Fourth quarter | Bring Baby Home | First 3 months

Attend Heidi Skudder at the Live @ Home Baby Show from October 30 to November 1. In addition, the first 300 My Baba readers to register for Baby Show Live @ Home using the LAHMYB20 discount will receive a FREE Standard Weekend Pass to the event, worth £ 20 each! It’s on a first come, first serve basis, so be quick and don’t miss out on this amazing gift! Follow this link https://bit.ly/2GOMqyr.

What three tips can you give new moms about being home with baby for the first week?

  • Sit down and take it all – those first few weeks go by and before you know it, Dad will be back to work. Spend as much time as possible together watching and cuddling your baby. Encourage Dad to sit with you even if you are breastfeeding because his time is passing too quickly. Learn together and share the experience, letting Dad get involved in diaper changes and winding if he’s not feeding himself.
  • You know best – although sometimes it may not feel like it. A mother’s instinct is always strong, so whether it’s sleeping, feeding, or changing a diaper, be confident in your ability to take care of your baby. It will seem overwhelming to you, but know that you and baby will find your way together and that there is no rush. Small steps and a little confidence along the way.
  • Forget about housework! Your baby doesn’t care if the floor hasn’t been vacuumed, and your guests don’t care if there are dishes in the sink (actually ask them to help you!). Home can wait, not your baby and your bonding experience. Don’t feel guilty about spending time on the couch or in bed, in fact I would fully recommend a week in bed, then a week on the couch – let visitors laugh and order easy food.

How do you keep your baby’s umbilical cord clean to prevent infection?

It’s best to keep your hands clean, so wash them before and after the diaper change and while touching the area. The baby can still wash but keep the area dry afterwards, but pat gently with a cloth / flannel. Also, try pulling up the top of baby’s diaper to help circulate air around the area and keep it from “sweating” under the diaper.

How can I make sure that I put my baby to sleep in the safest way possible?

There are excellent guidelines from the Lullaby Trust that help new parents understand how to best and safely sleep their babies. Babies are now recommended to sleep on their backs, with nothing else in their beds. They should also be placed with their feet towards the end of the bed or basket rather than being too high in the bed. Temperature is also considered an important factor.

How do I know if my baby has colic or reflux?

Colic and reflux are very similar and in fact in my experience colic is usually always caused by something; some of the most common reasons for colic are a tired baby, a baby who doesn’t drink enough milk at night, or a baby who has reflux.

Reflux can either be silent and consistent regurgitating in the throat but with no obvious signs other than congestion, arching food and disliking being put on your back, or vomiting reflux when it is really very obvious. There are many signs of reflux and some of them remain hidden for quite a long time and also go unrecognized by many healthcare professionals which is why so many parents struggle to get a diagnosis.

If you think your little one is having difficulty, try asking for help and follow your gut feelings. A high percentage of reflux is actually caused by food intolerances – often milk, so it’s worth thinking about changing formulas or cutting out dairy as the first step towards improvements.

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When should I start accepting visitors home to see the baby?

It’s such a personal choice that many of my clients struggle with, often at odds with their partners. Having been through this before myself twice, I would say be strong and stand up for what you want as those first few weeks can be very difficult especially if your birth was difficult.

Try to save the first two weeks for immediate family only, and don’t be afraid to give them time limits for visits. No one wants to be sitting with their breasts out, crying with their looking stepdad a whole day at a time. Be kind to yourself and the huge experience you have just had.

It will take time, and once your partner is back at work, think of friends coming over to ask them to bring food or hold the baby while you shower.

When can you start to consider establishing a routine for your new baby?

This is my most frequently asked question and the answer is really, whenever it’s convenient for you! I have clients who are keen on starting a routine from four weeks old and they do what works for them and others who don’t believe in or think about routines until the sixth month.

I always recommend that parents take advantage of the first few weeks and not worry too much about creating habits or putting in routines, but by about six weeks the diet usually starts to settle in well and baby isn’t very sleepy anymore, so that’s really good It’s time to start thinking about putting together a gentle pattern for your baby’s day.

What should I do if my baby does not seem to be gaining weight while breastfeeding? How to tell the difference between feeding in clusters and insufficient supply?

Your health visitor will let you know if your baby is dropping their percentiles to a level that they are concerned about, but some babies will dip slightly and just born a little bigger than they maybe were.

Good wet diapers and regular pooping are good signs that your baby is doing well. Much like their temper, if your baby is always unhappy and never seems satisfied, use your instincts. You can express and try to offer baby a bottle in the evening if you are unhappy with the hours spent cluster feeding.

Cluster feeding is a really normal habit for babies at night, as they often feed to try and increase milk supply, which is naturally lower at night, but that doesn’t mean they don’t. not consuming enough. If you are tired and are unable to group foods for some reason, introducing an evening bottle is a good way to involve dad in feeding too.

Do I always have to change a wet diaper even at night?

During the day, yes and during the night if a baby is breastfeeding, then I would always opt for a diaper change. However, if baby is asleep, you will probably want to wait until baby wakes up the next time, as changing his diaper will likely wake him up and likely require you to feed him again.

It is quite safe for your baby to be in a wet diaper between nocturnal feedings at night.

Tell us about the toughest challenges of the first month of being a new mother – what should we expect?

All mothers face very different challenges during these first weeks. I have yet to meet a mom who has not encountered difficulties, whether it is with birth, breastfeeding, sleep, reflux, or relationships.

It’s a huge period of adjustment and it’s worth acknowledging that your world has changed completely. Things won’t be the way you remember them anymore and sometimes it can seem really hard!

Manage lack of sleep

For some mothers, lack of sleep can be very difficult and its impact on mental health is enormous. Asking your partner to help you with night feeds, or even paying a night nanny for an overnight stay if you are really struggling, are all good ways to help. Everyone makes a joke about the idea of ​​napping when your baby is napping, but it’s a really good idea and even a 20 minute cat nap can really jog your memory. Spend the night early and don’t expect too much!

Breastfeeding is very hard work and takes time, energy and persistence. There are so many places to get help but it’s not always that obvious, so find your local breastfeeding cafe, read it before baby arrives, and be sure to ask as many questions as you can. necessary during your hospital stay to get the best. possible start.

As with everything, there is help out there if you need it, but know that you will get there and there are other options as well if you decide it’s not for you.

Your relationship is also changing and you now have a third little person to involve, which ultimately means dating time is taking a back seat. Some of my clients find it really difficult as they are unable to feed the baby on their own (daddy) so feel a little out of the way. Getting daddy to bathe with his baby, bottle-feed him, and try to share the baby’s care a bit will also help build his confidence. Try to laugh often, it’s crazy but it’s also magical and you will be a couple again, but not anytime soon, and that’s OK! Meeting at home in front of the TV with a takeaway is a must!

The baby blues – what is it, and how is it different from postpartum depression?

Most new moms will experience the baby blues, while postpartum depression doesn’t happen to everyone. Due to the changes in the mother’s hormones after birth, you may well have more difficult days when there are a lot of tears and your hormone levels are all over the place. This is very normal and there is nothing to worry about, it will pass over time. However, over time, if you continue to feel depressed and things seem difficult, contact your GP or health visitor.

There are many places to get help for postpartum depression and the earlier it is detected, the easier it will be to get help and get out of it. Never be embarrassed to talk about it, your sanity is so important to you and your baby.

For discounted tickets to The Baby Show, click here, and we’ll see you on Friday, February 28 at 11 a.m. for our How to Survive the First Three Months panel. Our experts include Heidi Skudder, Becca Maberly, Lucinda Miller, and Kieron Edwards-Pritchard of Future Health.

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Review: Fourth quarter | Caring for a newborn baby

You can see Becca Maberly on the My Baba panel at the Baby Show Live @ Home on Sunday, November 1 at 5 p.m. Becca will be joining our panel on How to Survive the First Three Months, along with Lucinda Miller, Nature Doc Clinic, Sarah Norris, The Baby Detective and Dr Sophie Niedermaier Patramani from Little Tummy.

The first 300 My Baba readers to register for the Baby Show Live @ Home using the LAHMYB20 discount will receive a FREE Standard Weekend Pass to the event, worth £ 20 per person! It’s on a first come, first serve basis, so be quick and don’t miss out on this amazing gift! Follow this link https://bit.ly/2GOMqyr.

You can navigate your way through your pregnancy without a problem or you may be plagued by medical issues and sleepless nights. Your birth may or may not be the best experience of your life. Chances are you will experience a mix of good and bad morsels, and every step of the way you will be reminded that no matter how much yoga you do, how many superfoods you consume. , how many books you read, how fit you are, how rich you are, how smart you are …. your experience is largely out of your control.

And the same goes for the fourth quarter. No amount of planning, reading, taking notes, praying or hoping can guarantee you a smooth ride through the first 3 months of your baby’s life and your life as a new mother.

What to consider in the fourth trimester:

There are 3 main things to consider when thinking about the fourth trimester.

  1. You
  2. Your baby
  3. Your partner

You

How are you? Maybe you like it! Breastfeeding might come naturally, the baby is feeding and sleeping, you only wake up once a night, and you can put on your favorite jeans after two weeks. You enjoy your new role as a mother and love all the attention, visitors and gifts and especially the hugs from the newborn. Your pelvic floor is in good condition and you have already done the deed with your partner and everything was fine … well! You are a pro!

OR

Maybe everything hurts and you are up 3, 4, 5, 6 times in the night. Your nipples are cracked and feeding the baby is so sore which is a huge surprise. Your stitches are aching and you look like you’re still pregnant and you’re still in all your maternity clothes. Every time you cough, you have leek urine. You are afraid to take a look there. Maybe you can’t get dressed and get out of the house before 4 p.m. and you can’t stop feeling sad. What have you done?

You cannot choose how your body and mind react to this new role in life. Some women recover quickly and return to “normal” within a few weeks. Others take longer, have complications, and some suffer from depression. You may have had a model pregnancy and a simple delivery, but you just hit the wall in the postpartum period, even though the baby is fine. One in ten women suffers from postpartum depression, and it is often an unpredictable event too.

Your baby

Babies are often as unpredictable as their entry into this world. Some people disapprove of using the words “good” or “bad” to describe babies, so let’s go for “easy” and “harder” if that’s better.

Your “easy” baby could get back to birth weight in a week and after a few interrupted nights of sleep, he’ll be feeding like a dream 8 times a day. They can be easy to roll up and quickly self-adjust. Have flawless skin, bowels that run like clockwork, adore their Moses basket, and smile, roll, and tick all development boxes on time.

OR

Maybe you have a “more difficult” baby. They may have jaundice or have trouble gaining weight. Have an unsightly rash that looks even more obvious in photos. Take hours to feed, then scream and throw up. They might cry if they are not held back. Is it colic or reflux? The general practitioner seems uncertain. Should you take him to the osteopath or is he a big jumbo?

You can’t choose what kind of baby you have! And it can be very exhausting and overwhelming having one who doesn’t feed or sleep as easily as others, especially if you’re surrounded by new parents who seem to have an easier time than you.

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Your partner

The presence and support of a partner is perhaps one of the most unpredictable elements of the fourth trimester.

Perhaps they are absent or distracted? The partner who came to every meeting and every class and was there for you during labor suddenly changes. They start to find jobs, trips, their phones and the latest box a lot more interesting than the screaming baby who keeps peeing, pooping and throwing up.

Your partner wants to know “what happened to our social life and those delicious meals we used to eat … and sex?” What about me and my needs? Sorry, I was late home from work tonight but it was Doreen from the HR departure party. I’m back tomorrow night and have to travel to Huddersfield for a conference next week. And why is the baby crying so much, try to silence him because I have an important day at work tomorrow.

OR

Are they enthusiastic and helpful? Perhaps they are the diaper supremo and the baby paraphernalia expert, the slingshot wizard and the burp master general. In sync, in sympathy, and perhaps more importantly, in the kitchen, with the latest hungry breastfeeding recipe, new sleep-deprived mothers. They are strict with visitors who dare to extend their welcome. They are happy to share the night feeds and review shared parental leave!

You can’t always predict how your partner will react to becoming a new parent. Many new mothers are quite surprised by their partner’s response to parenthood, some in a good way and some not! It may take time for many partners to truly feel the connection to their newborn baby. Some get it right away and some need space and time and come much later.

So you see that most women and their partners have difficulty in the fourth trimester, so you need to prepare for that as well. You can’t always avoid tough times by throwing money or resources on the situation. Even private obstetric care and access to all the latest technology does not prevent colic or postpartum depression. Likewise, having limited funds doesn’t mean you’re destined for a tougher time.

Tips for YOU:

Don’t try to be everything for everyone. It is impossible to be a good wife, partner, best friend, sister, household goddess, chef, nutritionist, environmentalist, cleaner, administrator, fashion guru, sex goddess, social butterfly, athlete, career woman AND MOTHER!

More often than not, being a mother is the most difficult. You just can’t do it all.

What you CAN do to take care of yourself after you have had a baby:

  • take it easy
  • Lower your expectations
  • Be kind to yourself
  • Restrict visitors
  • Sleep when you can
  • Learn to say “no”
  • Learn to ask for help
  • Accept help
  • Get expert advice from your midwife, health visitor, doctor and lactation consultant
  • Listen to your mom, aunt, sister, or friend, but be prepared to ignore advice that isn’t working for you
  • Speak up if you know things are not going or going well, or if you feel you need extra support.
  • Seek support from communities like ours on Instagram or
  • Try to take a long-term view and be patient.
  • Repeat the mantra, “Everything is a phase”.
  • Remember, we all develop at different rates, and sometimes you have to be a parent one day at a time and be prepared for as many ups as there are downs in those first few weeks and months.

While there are so many unpredictable things to consider for the fourth trimester, one thing you can predict is the love you will feel for your baby. For some the love rush is instantaneous, and for others it’s more of a gradual thing, but it will happen and it will feel amazing and you will come through and be a wonderful mom!

Becca Maberly, author of “Nobody’s Telling You…” 101 Truths About Pregnancy, Birth and Parenting will be featured on the My Baba panel at The Baby Show, 11am on Friday February 28 at EXCEL. To book your tickets, click here using the exclusive code MYBABA for 30% off.

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Review: Baby’s first three months | Baby intestinal health | Breastfeeding

We welcome naturopath Lucinda Miller to our expert panel on How to Survive the First Three Months on Sunday November 1 at the Baby Show Live @ Home. We interviewed Lucinda before the show on the current topic, Baby’s First Three Months, also known as Fourth Trimester.

The first 300 My Baba readers to register for the Baby Show Live @ Home using the LAHMYB20 discount will receive a FREE Standard Weekend Pass to the event, worth £ 20 per person! It’s on a first come, first serve basis, so be quick and don’t miss out on this amazing gift! Follow this link https://bit.ly/2GOMqyr.

I plan to breastfeed. What should I do to help my body and supply?

The most important thing when breastfeeding is to eat foods that are highly nutritious and in abundance throughout the day. This is when you really feed for two! Also drink plenty of water – at least three liters a day is ideal while breastfeeding. Tip: Fill a bottle with water right before you sit down for each feed and make sure you have drunk it before you get up.

How do I spot my baby’s tongue attachment / latch issues and what can I do about it?

The tongue tie should be identified by a healthcare practitioner, however, if your baby seems very uncomfortable breastfeeding or your breasts are very sore, there may be a problem with latching on and I would advise you to see your doctor to assess the situation and refer.

What should I do if my baby is constipated? Is this a symptom of something else that might be happening, and what should I do to help ease their pain?

It is rare for a baby who is exclusively breastfeeding to be constipated and this usually happens when you start to add infant formula. In this case, switch back to exclusive breastfeeding because the new milk is obviously not suitable for them. If you can’t resume breastfeeding for any reason, talk to a naturopath or nutritional therapist who can advise you on special enzymes to help digest milk. If constipation follows antibiotic treatment for baby or mom, add a baby probiotic which can make all the difference.

Should all babies take a probiotic from birth, and do you have any advice for Caesarean moms?

If a mother ate a very healthy diet of fruits, salads, and vegetables and ate lots of gut foods like yogurt and kefir AND also had a super healthy pregnancy – then the baby probably won’t. no need for a probiotic as it should have a fairly healthy microbiome. However, babies who would benefit from probiotics throughout the process are those whose parents suffer from an autoimmune disease; have a history of allergies, asthma and eczema; suffered from yeast infections or urinary tract infections during pregnancy; had a poor immune system during pregnancy; have taken antibiotics during pregnancy or at the time of birth; or had a compromised diet due to illness. It is also a good idea for Premmie babies to take a probiotic once they are safely home and the diet is established.

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I am a nursing mom – what should I do if I suspect my baby is intolerant to something in my milk? Is it still likely to be a dairy allergy?

The way allergy specialists typically diagnose a cow’s milk allergy is how long the baby cries loud and long rather than doing full allergy tests. They usually assume by default that it is an allergy or intolerance to cow’s milk, as it is the main food a baby consumes, whether through infant formula or through feeding the mother through breast milk. So the advice is usually to switch to a hydrolyzed milk protein powder such as Nutramigen or Neocate for bottle-fed babies and for mom to cut all dairy consumption if the baby is breastfed. If that doesn’t resolve matters, they are looking at other food allergens such as eggs or gluten, which can be present in some infant formulas and rich in most people’s diets.

If the skin is inflamed and irritated like eczema or hives, a private pediatric allergy specialist may arrange for a skin prick or blood tests. We can also organize blood tests from birth. However, very few cases are positive because the food allergy is complex and IgE which is the type of reaction we normally associate with allergy is just a few of the cases.

What should I do if my baby catches a cold in the first three months?

There’s not much you can do except keep the airways clear with small baby nasal sprays, special baby balms, and an in-room humidifier. Probiotics are something you can try and are worth having just in case even if they don’t take them regularly.

How do I keep my baby healthy if he has had to take antibiotics?

If you are breastfeeding, eat the healthiest diet possible, with a wide range of vegetables, fruits, salads, legumes, nuts and seeds – try to eat the rainbow of different foods every day. natural. Also add live yogurt and kefir and take a probiotic, as all the goodness goes through your breast milk. Whether breastfed or bottle-fed, I would also give the baby an infant probiotic such as BioGaia. Other specialty probiotics include specific breast and bottle probiotics, through proven probiotics. Always give probiotics for at least 6 weeks after stopping antibiotic treatment.

What can moms do in terms of supplements and diets to fight the baby blues or even postpartum depression?

I would continue your multivitamin pregnancy or choose a great breastfeeding formula like Wild Nutrition for the first three months – no matter what type of birth you had or how you chose to feed your baby. These tend to contain zinc, folate, and iron along with other B vitamins that are important for a mother’s mental health and energy. I would also like to make sure that you are taking a good quality omega 3 rich fish oil to help keep the baby blues at bay. Vitamin D is also important, especially at this time of year and the government advises us to take it from October to April anyway in the UK. Meat, poultry, eggs, and dairy are the best sources of these essential nutrients and if you’re a vegetarian / vegan, eat tons of legumes, tofu, soy yogurt, nuts, and seeds.

What are your top three tips for new moms?

  • Make your diet a top priority and say yes to anyone who wants to cook you a meal or fill your freezer.
  • Continue your pregnancy with multi, omega 3 fish oil and vitamin D for at least 3 months after birth.
  • Get fresh air each day as soon as you are mobile enough, as this will keep you and your baby in a healthier place mentally and physically.

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Review: Modern Heroes Campaign Fireman Sam

Firefighter Sam and his team of real-life firefighters have just launched his Modern-Day Heroes campaign with the goal of raising vital funds for the DEC coronavirus appeal.

Forget damsels in distress and knights in shining armor, the Fireman Sam Modern Day Heroes call is a chance to shine the spotlight on friends, family, and frontline workers who went above and beyond to help others this year.

Fireman Sam Modern Day Heroes Campaign

Firefighter Sam invites your kids to draw their own modern day hero and post it on social media using the hashtag #FindTheHero. They will donate £ 1 to the DEC coronavirus appeal for each photo, up to £ 10,000.

Additionally, firefighter Sam and the Pontypandy team will present 50 of the nation’s heroes with a specially commissioned campaign medal.

What is a modern day hero?

The campaign was launched after research by Fireman Sam revealed that 36% of the British public had changed their minds about what defines a hero in the wake of the pandemic.

Helen Genia, UK Licensing and Hardlines EMEA Manager, Mattel, says: “There is no doubt that there has been a shift in what is considered a hero, never more than this year. Children will grow up around this time, not only thinking about traditional superheroes like the ones to be admired, but many of those who work in services like the NHS that serve us so well. Not only that, there is clearly a greater appreciation for the “everyday hero” who works hard without a pat on the back every day, from supermarkets to door-to-door deliveries.

Recognize the efforts of everyday heroes

Helen Genia of Mattel adds: “It’s clear that those who put themselves on the front lines don’t always get the recognition they deserve. Accordingly, to show our appreciation, we are proud to launch the “Fireman Sam Modern-Day Heroes Campaign” to recognize the efforts of everyday heroes who have been nominated for their hard work and bravery.

Celebrate heroic acts of everyday life

A survey of 2,000 people revealed everyday acts that are now considered “heroic,” such as directing traffic after an accident or helping someone with a flat tire. Determination, honesty and integrity are now among the main attributes of a hero. Only seven percent now view physical strength as a hallmark of modern heroes.

Nurses, doctors and firefighters are the most heroic jobs of the modern age, with garbage pickers, delivery drivers and supermarket workers also being highly regarded by the public. More than a third (34 percent) tilted their cap on supermarket workers – and 28 percent said delivery drivers had made a courageous effort.

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One in five (22%) consider garbage collection crews to be heroes, and a quarter (25%) say the same about the fire department. 72% think we need to celebrate the heroic things people do more with, 18% being considered someone’s hero in recent months. Considering these stats, we think #FindTheHero is a fabulous opportunity for you to shout out loud about the people in your life who have made a difference for you this year.

The DEC Coronavirus Appeal supports 14 leading UK charities in raising funds during times of humanitarian crisis in poorest countries. The funds will help provide families with clean water, soap and information on how to protect themselves, equipment and supplies for frontline medical and humanitarian workers to care for the sick and vulnerable; and ensuring that families receive enough food to help prevent malnutrition.

Saleh Saeed, CEO of the Disaster Emergency Committee, said, “We are proud to partner with the Fireman Sam Modern-Day Heroes campaign to honor the importance of frontline heroes, key workers and communities. . On behalf of DEC and our member charities, I would like to say a big thank you for your generous support of DEC’s appeal against the coronavirus and for helping to highlight the importance of frontline medical and humanitarian workers who support people living in the most fragile regions of the world. facing Covid-19 ”.

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Review: TO WIN! A Santa Bundle and Reindeer Peekaboo toy from Nuby

This week we’re giving away a Santa Pack and a Nuby Reindeer Peekaboo toy and we’ve got two up for grabs.

Santa’s packages are available in a choice of 0-12 months or 12 months and up. Each surprise box is just that – a surprise! So you never really know what Santa has up his sleeve until you open the box. We don’t want to spoil the surprise for you, so all we’ll be saying is that your surprise box will include lots of fun toys from Nuby.

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Review: Bugaboo Newborn Inlay | Bugaboo stroller accessories

Autumn leaves are falling, it’s time to warm up. If you are venturing out with a new baby this season, you’ll want to make sure they’re toasty warm. Once you’ve found your perfect Bugaboo stroller, the Bugaboo Newborn Inlay will be your next stopover.

Launched just in time for the colder months, this beautiful stroller accessory is a must have, plus it’s the perfect year-round solution to keeping your baby warm in their stroller.

Easy to use all year round

The Bugaboo newborn insert is designed for use from birth up to around six months and will be the go-to accessory in your stroller for the duration. Designed exclusively for use in Bugaboo bassinet setups, it features a durable interior strap to keep your baby securely in place for your outdoor adventures and on-the-go walks.

Extra layer of warmth and protection

We know that newborns and infants are less able to regulate their own body temperature, so it’s important to help them do that. Remember to keep your baby’s head warm during the winter months and dress her in layers to prevent her from getting too hot or too cold.

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When you are outside with your stroller, the Bugaboo Infant Insert will create an extra layer of warmth and protection for your baby, so you can rest assured that he is kept safe, warm and dry. . The soft and breathable cotton fabrics will help keep your newborn comfortable in all seasons. Made from chemical free material, it is also super gentle on baby’s delicate skin.

The best carrycot accessory for newborns

Machine washable at 30 ° C cold, the Bugaboo newborn insert is intended for everyday use. Available in a light heather gray color, it is compatible with all Bugaboo strollers, except the Ant.

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For more information, visit the Bugaboo website for details, contact them by email at [email protected] or call 0800-587-8265.

  • Not suitable for sleeping at night
  • Not suitable for use in infant car seats or in the Bugaboo Stardust

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